Focus on the Main Thing

Focus on the Main Thing

My eldest uncle, Uncle Pete frequently starts out his responses in a conversation by saying “The main thing is….” And then he would continue to share what he perceived the most important about the situation that was being discussed.  Over the years, I have been more intentional about focusing on the most important pieces of my life.  In the past, I have found myself being overcommitted and distracted by focusing on the wrong things that have little to do with the main thing of accomplishing my goals and living out my purpose.

We are in the midst of a new academic year which will bring its own set of unique challenges.  However, we have the power to craft and reimagine how we live our lives.  Having done student conduct for years, I often asked students to share their values.  They would share, and I would ask them to provide evidence.  For example, if someone values family, then the relationship with their family is evident by their daily behaviors.  Pay attention to what you are making your main thing and how you are designating your time. 

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How often do we spend checking our notifications on our phones and/or reviewing the latest updates or a post while that time can never be reclaimed.  I started to monitor how much my time was consumed by social media and text messages that led to no outcome but wasted time.  Meanwhile, I need to complete book chapters, proposals or spend time with family and friends who were right in front of me.  I reminded myself to stay present in the moment and to prioritize the purpose of each moment.  I also stopped responding to messages from 10 a.m. to 10 p.m... What is clogging up your time?  What needs to be placed on hold or deleted from your routine, so you can focus on your main thing? 

Remember, in the end; you are your main thing.  Being ambitious is great but making sure we practice self-care and focusing on our mental, physical, and spiritual health is non-negotiable. 

In the days ahead there will be days that we may feel defeated as we navigate relationships, exams, dissertations, job searches, and the pursuit of our latest dream, but remember to take a deep breath, put things in perspective and focus on the main thing!

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